Why Men Hate Going To Church by David Murrow

In this book, an updated and edited version of David Murrow’s 2005 original, the author addresses the issue of why men are missing in our churches, especially the Evangelical church. He contrasts the “tone” of churches and how they take on more feminine traits than male traits. While men use terms like “boring”, and “irrelevant” when describing their distaste for church, Murrow offers more detailed examples of how churches, and even Christ Himself, are depicted with mostly feminine traits, and that this leads men to find other outlets for their more natural tendencies toward competition, strength, and even conflict.

I find Murrow’s views very enlightening. Moreover, they align with much of my personal discoveries about men (including me!) that indicate men are in pursuit of many “masculine” things because of their fear of being labeled as too effeminate, or not “manly” enough. In fact, Murrow’s views are another example of how the “absence” of men from many of our most important institutions (church, school, and the home, for instance) is actually promoting an increase in the “feminizing” of our culture.

I also found the book an easy read overall. For those who like proof, Murrow provides significant data to back up his assertions concerning men and the church. For those who are concerned with adequate Biblical grounding, Murrow cites the Bible multiple times as he describes the conflict we’ve created in the church between Jesus the “Lamb” and Jesus the “Lion”.

I recommend this book to anyone researching the issue of men and the church, or who are pursuing further understanding of how to reach more men in this generation for the Kingdom.

Disclosure Note: I obtained “Why Men Hate Going To Church” from Thomas Nelson publishing via their “Booksneeze” program which offers bloggers and other reviewers books for free in exchange for a published review. I was not required to write a positive review in exchange for the book, and the views expressed in this review are my own.

Need A Mirror?

I'm growing weary of "men" who use their Social Media platform to SCREAM about the idiocy of others. Such efforts to proclaim your political, spiritual, intellectual, or idealistic superiority accomplishes little. Instead, your actions give evidence of a man running...running as fast as he can from the mirror, and from God!

You see, I heard a man I respect say that when God shows up, He begins by revealing things. Things about ourself become evident to...OURSELF! And, that is a terrifying proposition to many a man.

My friend, I urge you to MAN-UP, GROW A PAIR, and face your greatest fear by letting God show you who you are. Because, I believe that only when we face who we are will He be able to then show us who He wants us to be. I'm now on that journey toward who He wants me to be, and every day brings new illumination. Won't you join me?

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Do I REALLY Want to Spend Time with Him?

To my dear friends,
I read this in a devotional some time ago. A simple question asked by a grandson, to his grandfather only a couple of days before he passed away. What a profound answer this was for me today. Hope it helps inspire and encourage you.

"Daddy Ray," I asked him, "every time I spent the night at your house, I saw you read your Bible; you must have read everything in there a dozen times over the years. What keeps you desiring to read your Bible everyday at this point in your life?"

I was waiting for a profound answer, but in his gentle and sincere voice he responded, "I guess I just wanted to spend more time with Jesus."

Sorry, friends, but that IS a profound answer for me. If God gave me His Word to communicate with me, and I don’t invest in reading it (and, sadly, I do not very much), do I really want to spend time with him?

May we all seek Him and His presence (and His WORD) more today!

I love you, friends,

Robby